Understanding frustration and how to solve it

Frustration as it were is an emotional response to stress, a feeling of disappointment and discomfort aroused in the human mind. Frustration is a common feeling that everyone will experience in their life.

It sometimes comes when something has gone wrong or when a person is not able to achieve the goals that they had set for themselves. In every ten people seven are affected by frustration and out of them three are severely affected. It is a mental feeling that is growing like other dangerous diseases.

The reason for frustration can vary according to the individual, but some common reasons or causes that lead to frustration are:

• Work stress
• Family stress
• Relationship stress
• Not able to attain a set goal
• Financial lack
• Not finding a solution to existing issue

The definition of frustration is the feeling of irritability or anger because of the inability to achieve something. But being in a constant state of frustration can lead to many problems in your life.

For example, if you are pursuing a goal without any positive result, you certainly will get frustrated, and if not well handled can lead to other emotions that affect your over all wellbeing resulting in some of the followings:

• Loss of confidence
• Anger
• Aggressiveness
• Irritability
• Depression

There are 2 major Types of Frustration

It has been proven that frustration comes from internal or external sources. One major way of solving daily frustrations is to recognize if your frustration is internal or external.

1. External frustration

When external frustration occurs, it means the thing that is causing your frustration is outside of you such as wasting time in traffic, working with a naggy boss in the office, or barriers to something you want to achieve.

2. Internal frustration

Internal frustration means you are frustrated with yourself or your reaction. It can also mean you are not happy with the way you reacted to situation.

Like I earlier said, examining the situation to determine where the cause of frustration stems from can be a useful first step in solving your dilemma.

You will agree with me that in today’s competitive scenario every person has his targets that he wanted to achieve timely and if he is not able to achieve his targets he is frustrated. This frustration can affect the mind in negative way in which person’s thinking power gets slowed down.

Frustration led a person a take wrong decisions and as a result of which he is not able to come with innovative ideas. His creativity gets stopped down. He is not able to achieve all his targets and is left with only his uncompleted plans and unachieved targets. Such a frustrated person goes far away from reality.

Firstly the feeling of frustration is aroused in human beings when they are not able to achieve the targets that they had set for themselves. Secondly the feeling of frustration is aroused when they compare themselves with others and find that they are lacking behind while others had made a rapid progress but they had remained where they were earlier.

This causes frustration in them. When the people misinterpret their capabilities and set those targets which are far away from their potentials. They just compare themselves with those who are more educated or are equipped with high potential or more resources and then set their target up to those levels where they factually could never reach. And then when they are not able to meet their targets they get frustrated.

Effects of frustration:

When a person is under the influence of frustration, so many things about him or the changes of him; below are some of the things that will begin to manifest.

1. Complaining

In utopian organizations, everyone speaks collaboratively on how to solve problems. In realistic organizations, everyone complains of the problems. When you are complaining, pay attention to whether you justify complaining, or simply meaningless, complaining chronic. Are you identifying a problem that needs to be solved?

Your desire to complain about something means there is something about that situation that is bothering you. Dissect you using the problem tree approach. You must accurately identify the problem by focusing on the root and not the branches (symptoms). Once you identify the real problem, identify a solution. It can even complain a little by expressing what you bother you, and then suggest a solution. Even if your solution is not practical, this productive ventilation is much healthier than unproductive complaining.

2. Fear of Change

Do you fear a next restructuring, software implementation, a new boss or some other important change that comes your way? Have the company changed its long-term strategy, again? These can be frustrating situations. There is an old saying that says that employees hate two things:

1. Change.

2. The way things are.

The point is that the change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying trapped somewhere when you are not doing what you enjoy. Do not resist change: change of welcome and use it to really transform things about your work you do not like. So that your emotions change, your surroundings have to change. Corporate change is inevitable, so that it is an opportunity to change the things that frustrate it.

3. Feeling not appreciated enough

Frustrated people often feel that they are overlooked in praise. We all want to be slapped in the back, but make sure it is not only demanding constant attention. Do you infuriate when you think your skills and efforts are being underestimated?

Healthy competition within an organization or team can be a good thing to free up small doses of anger and frustration, as long as it is maintained in control. As Pat Riley asks, is it your personal efforts only to overcome a teammate? It becomes dangerous when you are constantly trying to overcome others around you. Instead of worrying about being the best on the team, worry about having the best team.

Along with the feelings that you are not appreciated, it is common to become obsession of who receives credit and who is to blame. No given credit is enough, and they are offered too much to a co-worker is frustrating. Again, try to concentrate on the success of the team, not if you are going to get credit. Paranoia about being deceived by legitimate participation is not worth it.

4. Resentment

Co-workers are forced to become jealous among themselves. It can reach a point where it cannot be happy for a co-worker who achieves success because it takes away the focus of attention. Instead of being happy for the success of the partners, selfish people get angry instead. Another warning sign is feelings of frustration even when the team is successful. Even in success, some workers become infuriated in the office, head down and were distressed. Do not be disappointed with your own performance that neglects the success of the general team.

Even if you enjoy success, are you quick to accept too much credit and not enough to blame? Do not fall into the trap of believing that success has ensured future failures and that team success is a direct result of your individual effort. You must go back and understand how rare actual success can be, and, therefore, understand that you need more than just your effort to achieve a team.

It is the fact that everyone on this earth are not born with same potential and have same abilities and in same area. If they misinterpret their functional area and start their career in line in which they are weak or the line which is not meant actually for them. Then this results in frustration on the condition of being not achieving the targets.

For instance, some people enjoy the post of CEO in reputed companies just because they are born in high society and rich family even though they are not that much talented while others although they are more qualified and talented struggles hard to acquire he middle class jobs also. If common man does not make effort to remove these types of social injustices then this led to frustration in them. The involvement of large number of young persons in activities like terrorism is also an outcome of frustration.

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